Ezra Miller opens up about having multiple romantic partners in a ‘polycule’
"We love each other so much.”
By Will Stroude
Words: Will Stroude
Fantastic Beast star Ezra Miller has opened up about being polyamourous, revealing he finds romantic connection with a group of partners in a ‘polycule’ – a portmanteau of ‘polyamory’ and ‘molecule’.
The US actor, who told Attitude this week that his character’s storyline in Harry Potter spin-off sequel The Crimes of Grindelwald is a “vital” metaphor for the LGBT experience, says that he seeks out sexual partners who understand him “as a queer being right off the bat”.
Posing as a Playboy bunny for an new shoot and interview with Playboy, Miller said that the group of people in his polycule, which includes members of his band Sons of an Illustrious Father – all feel a deep connection for one another.
“I’m trying to find queer beings who understand me as a queer being off the bat, who I make almost a familial connection with, and I feel like I’m married to them 25 lifetimes ago from the moment we meet,” the 26-year-old said.
“And then they are in the squad – the polycule. And I know they’re going to love everyone else in the polycule because we’re in the polycule, and we love each other so much.”
Miller, who identifies as queer and non-binary, described himself as a “sexual being”, but made clear that that doesn’t mean he’s always having a lot of sex.
“I have more of an ecstatic practice, but I do take to instatic practices at times, so sometimes, I don’t have sex for a really long time because a lack of sex is as important to me as sex,” he explained.
The actor also revealed that he had faced abuse because of his sexuality in both his professional and personal life, and that his role as a gay high school student who is attacked the by the classmate he’s hooking up with in 2012’s Perks of Being a Wallflower resonated with his own experiences.
“I’ve survived abuse for sure, for sure, in a lot of capacities, starting from a pretty young age,” he said. “There was a close friend who I had a sexual relationship with who really, really turned on me in a violent way. So that Perks story was pretty close to home for me.”
He went on: “I’ve been attacked repeatedly in my life—I’ve been attacked by fucking bigots, man.
“Of course I’ve been in audition situations where sexuality was totally being leveraged.
“It’s really important to acknowledge the diversity of voices who have experienced this shit, and all genders, all capacities, all types of people.
“Everyone is victim to it. Everyone is a survivor of it.”