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Woman shares ‘bigoted’ grandparents’ inspiring reaction to news that she’s gay

By Will Stroude

Older or extended member of the family can often be the hardest to come out to, but one California woman has proved that sometimes even the most seemingly closed-minded of people can surprise you.

After getting engaged to her girlfriend MacKenzie, Katie Mathewson realised she would have to bite the bullet and finally come out to her conservative grandparents. Two weeks later though, she received a letter in the mail, and was so moved by its contents that she took to the internet to share it.


Katie (r) with her fiancée MacKenzie

In an Imgur post entitled ‘This is what can happen when you come out to your bigoted and close-minded grandparents’, she wrote:

I came out to my grandparents a couple weeks ago and was wholly convinced that they couldn’t accept it”, she wrote. “Not just because of their age or their lifestyle, but because, over the years, I’ve listened quietly and sadly as they talked about people who were different from them. I accepted the sad reality that that they’d never know the real me. But when I got engaged to my perfect and beautiful girlfriend, I felt like I had to tell them (regardless of the outcome).

Today, I came home to this letter in the mail. My grandmother is Korean and English isn’t her first language, but all I needed to see was “what matters is your happiness with MacKenzie for the rest of your life … No matter what may come, we still love you very much.” It’s not perfect or poetic, but it’s genuine and it’s love and it surprised me in the best way possible.


The letter reads:

Dear Katie!

Thank you for sharing your happy news with us Katie. The most important matters is your happiness with MacKenzie for the rest of your life.

The rest of the world will follow the ideas as the time moves on, and that is their problems! Just be understanding for those who don’t. I have been looking for an engagement card just right for you but not successful.

Sorry – Your grandfather and I are getting older everyday – moods change as the aches and pains occur and yet some days we feel energetic and ready to do anything so we will see by that time, August 28, 2016 it’s still long time yet.

We send our congratulations and blessings for you health and happiness and most of all no matter what may come – we still lovve you very much!

A lesson that it’s never too late to change hearts and minds. Here’s hoping that Katie’s grandparents do make it to see their granddaughter head down the aisle on her big day.

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