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Nico Tortorella comes out as gender fluid

The Younger star revealed he has come to terms that he might not be fully cisgender

By Steve Brown

Nico Tortorella has come out as gender fluid.

The model and actor – who is best known for playing hunky tattoo artist Josh in the hit TV series Younger – previously said he identified as bisexual but while getting a drag makeover from Trinity Taylor, of Drag Race fame, he admitted he has come to terms with the fact that he might not be “fully cisgender”.

He said: “This isn’t something I’ve actually talked about on a public level quite yet.

“I just pretty recently have come to terms with the fact that maybe I am not fully cisgender and what does that mean.

“And the vocabulary for that is so wide right now and I am picking which word fits best. I’m not at that stage yet, but I don’t feel one way or other.”

He also admitted he likes the term “sissy” but spelt with a C rather than a S.

The actor – who isn’t afraid to drop his clothes – added: “I like the term cissy with a c. C-I-S-S-Y.

“Kind of cisgenderish, but a little soft.”

Nico married his long-term partner Bethany C Meyers at the beginning of this year and at the recent GLAAD Awards this month the actor wore a dress alongside his partner.


gender fuckery. it is a privilege for me to be able to wear this stunning @csiriano lewk standing next to my twin flame @bethanycmeyers for the @glaad media awards. it is a privilege i have for a multitude of reasons. the color of skin, my ability to pass as straight and cisgendered, my socioeconomic status, my celebrity, my location, my body, my face, my partner. a privilege to be able to show up to an event like this and then to throw on shorts, vans, tube socks, a t-shirt and beanie to walk my dogs safely in new york city. a privilege so many people in this world who identify as trans and non-binary simply do not have. this weekend was for them. this weekend was for femmes, boys questioning what boy means, and women. last night was for you. last night was for every gender nonconforming transfeminine warrior beauty of all shapes and color. you are valid. you are worth it. you do not deserve the constant harassment and bashing you endure on a daily basis. i see you today and everyday. i am you. i love you. i am here for you. not just to tell you that you look beautiful but to help keep you alive. i’m going to end this with a quote from my dear friend @alokvmenon from their book FEMME IN PUBLIC – “what feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to survive in this world?” we shouldn’t have to simply survive, we should ALL be able to live. i love you again. ALL OF IT IS YOU. #niconiconico #glaadawards #glaad #glaadmediaawards #allofitisyou

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Watch his drag makeover below: