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Demi Lovato switched back from they/them pronouns after finding it ‘exhausting’

The singer previously came out as non-binary back in 2021

By Charlotte Manning

Demi Lovato
Demi Lovato has shared her reasoning for changing her pronouns again (Image: Instagram/@ddlovato)

Demi Lovato has explained the reason she reverted back she/her pronouns after previously changing them to they/them. 

In a new interview, she admitted she “got tired” of having to explain her pronouns to people and since summer 2022. 

“I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting,” the singer told GQ Hype Spain.

“I just got tired,” she added, but feels it “even more important to continue spreading the word” as a result.

“I see myself conditioned to choose ‘woman’ because there are no more options” – Demi Lovato

Elsewhere in the chat, Demi expressed how difficult she’s found living in a world with so few gender-neutral public spaces. 

She noted she’s found it challenging “every day” she’s accessing spaces such as public toilets and carrying out tasks such as filling in forms. 

“For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it,” she explained.

“Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me.”

“I see myself conditioned to choose ‘woman’ because there are no more options. I think this has to change. Hopefully, with time, there will be more options.”

She came out to fans as non-binary in 2021 on Instagram, where she told fans: “Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all.

“I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary & will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward.”

Demi added: “This has come after a lot of healing & self-reflective work. I’m still learning & coming into myself, & I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson. Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me.”

The ‘Cool For The Summer’ hitmaker then confirmed she’d adopted she/her pronouns once again in August 2022 after feeling “more feminine”. 

Speaking on Sprout Podcast, Demi said: “Yeah, so, they/them is, um, I’ve actually adopted the pronouns of she/her again.

“I think what’s important is nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning. It’s just all about respect.”